Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Kick Back . . . Or Kick It Up a Notch

You deserve a break today! Don't you? There is nothing wrong with taking a well-deserved break, but sometimes what I need to do to feel better is to dig in, not escape. Running to the spa when I've been procrastinating on a project never makes me feel better—it just makes me feel guilty.

Procrastination is the most common soft addiction. And we use our other soft addictions to procrastinate—we turn on the TV, surf the internet, grab a snack, play solitaire, text-message our buddies...But the reality is that soft addictions are not real self-care. With a soft addiction I momentarily distract or numb myself with a surface craving but miss the opportunity to really take care of myself by meeting my deeper needs and hungers—like the hunger to be connected, loved, comforted, or to make a difference, to matter, to be fulfilled, or to be respected.

Real self-care sometimes means understanding all the activities you could do to take care of yourself and then picking the one that's the right fit at that time. And surprisingly sometimes hard work itself can be my best source of nourishment. There are times when I stay up a little later to get completely organized for the next day, and I have a much better night's sleep than if I had collapsed into bed after a long workday thinking, "I'll handle the rest in the morning."

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against taking great breaks. In fact, it's one of the things I often have to coach and train people to do in order to be more productive. But by expanding my definition of self-care, I don't need to wait for a certain type of break—a massage or an escape—to recharge my batteries. I can even use challenges to provide more nourishment and energy for my days.

May your days be filled with satisfying work and nourishing rest, and I hope that by taking good care of yourself, you'll be able to accomplish more than you ever thought possible.

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Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Make Room for the Life You Want

What is it about spring that feels so hopeful, like new things are possible? Just watching the flowers push through the earth makes me want a fresh start, a rebirth, a new beginning. I want to live leaner, get rid of stuff, clean out the closets - and clear out some of the cobwebs in my mind! I want a do-over to the start of my year.

And I know I'm not alone. Many of our students are deep into spring cleaning - redecorating, tossing out old stuff, scouring spaces – clearing out the old to make room for the new.

The desire or urge to clear out the old at this time of year has been going on for centuries. After a long enclosed winter, the beginning of spring meant that there was no more need for indoor heating and the house could be aired out and swept of the winter's ashes once and for all. And there are many springtime religious festivals that include preparing yourself or your home with a thorough cleaning from top to bottom.

Regardless of the origin of spring cleaning, let's take advantage of this urge to discard what no longer serves us to make room for new growth - in our homes, our offices, our lives, and even in our minds!

In this season of renewal and promise, may a fresh start to clear out the clutter and make room for the life you really want. Gotta go...need to move those winter clothes!